How To Win A Girl Back
After A Break Up
After A Break Up
Supposedly the day after Valentine's Day is the busiest ever for dating sites? Why?
It seems that the high expectations of a romantic day leads many of a girl packing their bags for greener pastures.
If Romeo slacked on the romance on an obvious day such as Valentine's Day than Juliet loses all help.
And often it's not until Juliet is out the door that you realize just how much Juliet (or insert your girl's name here) means to you.
Whether it's after the holiday season, after Valentine's, or after just an average day, you may just be wondering how to win a girl back after a break up.
Let's focus on your emotions here.
A break up will foster all sorts of emotions that you may or may not have experienced before with this particular girl. You have to allow yourself to experience and express these emotions, before you can think about moving towards winning her back.
Everyone reacts differently to a break up, probably dependent on how much they feel emotionally-invested to the situation. Meaning the more you feel you love someone, the harder it is to let go. Or, the more you want to be with them.
The following 12 emotions are only some of what you may be experiencing during your break up. These emotions aren't in any particular order, nor is it to say you will be experiencing all of these. Also, what you may be feeling may not be listed.
Love - You're feeling all sorts of love emotions that you may not have even felt for her yet. Sometimes, we don't know what we have until it's gone. It could be a case of taking someone for granted, or perhaps we just haven't been attune to things. But now, we know what we want. And it's her.
Sadness - Sure, it's disappointing to chalk up your break up to a quality, or qualities, you lack as a person. It makes us feel awful knowing that we've hurt someone, in this case someone we really care about, and so we feel crappy ourselves. And we miss her.
Depressed - When it just hurts so much 'cause you want her back and all you can do is think about her. When they say time heals all wounds, at this point you don't think it ever will. You miss her. Badly.
Anger - You could be feeling so much torment inside, especially if there is another male in the picture. You could be feeling so betrayed, like you thought you meant so much to her. How could she possibly have wronged you?
Disbelief - You may feel shocked that she doesn't want to be with you anymore. You may be feeling in denial and that she will come to her senses. Perhaps she was just having a bad day, you wonder. But then reality kicks in.
Rejection - Especially if you are the one that has been dumped, it can't make you feel special. You might even be questioning your self-worth, 'cause you thought you had what it took. Now you have to re-evaluate who you are, and it stings.
Jealousy - If you're feeling jealous, then you have to wonder what's really going on for you. Were you taking her for granted before? Why is it that now that she's got her eye on someone else is this break up grating on you?
Humility - Sure, depending on your sense of vulnerability. It could have been a public affair. Now you find that you're not only dealing with what she is thinking, but what others are thinking too.
Insecurity - Naturally, you just don't know what you need to do to get her to have love for you again. You can't imagine life without her, but more so you can't imagine being alone. This might make you feel needy for her.
Retaliation - You could be feeling so bitter that you want her to feel just as crappy as you do. You think it will create desire in her, or at least you will get your revenge. Only problem - you know you want her back. Don't worsen the trust.
Loneliness - Of course if you have been spending all your time with the same person day in and day out, you may find yourself lonely. It's important to re-connect with your buddies or make new friends. Do not hibernate feeling sorry for yourself.
Guilt - Your guilt may be eating you up inside where you can't help but wonder, "If only I..." This will only perpetuate your negative emotions. You have to come to peace knowing that you did what you knew at the time. Otherwise, you would have done better.
These are some of the top break up emotions that have come to mind as I write this. Surely, this is not an endless list and not a list with an ordered set of emotions.
For how to get back with your ex girlfriend successfully, you really have to sit down and clear out your emotions. You have to get to a place of acceptance. You have to accept the break up for what it is. You have to come to peace with yourself.
Of course, the time line for this varies. Everyone is different. If you feel you can't get through your day 'cause you feel really weighed down with negative emotions, it's honestly best to seek out professional help. There's nothing wrong with that! It's more common than you think to seek out help, 'cause people don't talk about it so openly.
The key thing is you want to make yourself a better person for YOU, and if you get an ex girlfriend back as a result - then BONUS.
It IS attractive when a man betters himself as a man. When he wants to do good for himself, and for others in his life is what draws women to men. It makes a girl feel confident that she can trust that her man knows how who he is, and what he needs to do.
How to win a girl back after a break up is by going back to that confident, secure, happy, and trustworthy man she fell in love with in the first place.
Once you have worked on your emotions, and you feel that you're in a great position to try and get her back, click here.
All the best!
P.S. I would love to know what you thought of this post, including some emotions I could have included!